(Someone sent in a heavily edited photo to the letterbox, with a joke about it being about something else, but I knew what it was because two sets of photos are making their way around email this week taken from facebook and two blogs. I don't want to put them on here, but I do want to comment. )
The vast majority of people do not put their hand on another's more personal body parts in public. If they do, that is the type of person they are and the other person they know and are touching has given them the signals that acting that way is okay with them. If it is not okay, then the person being handled doesn't stand there and take it and certainly doesn't lean into it, unless they are okay with it.
It is absurd to claim one is at fault for some particular act and the other standing right there allowing it is not. If there is fault, they both (all, in the case of another set of pictures) are at it (at fault), unless there is some unseen coercive or controlling force.
My personal feelings about two of the characters being joked about is that based on their behavior over the years, that has nothing to do with a photo, is that they have good qualities but they are also consistently two faced and consistently sleazy in behavior. They may get out of control when drinking or having their fun, but they are like this purposefully when they have not been drinking, when they think it gets them somewhere or something. It is not a mistake or two, here or there. They practice it constantly now. They have some very bad mentors and coaches who have helped lead them (each other) into this. It is a bad culture that has been developed.
Both of them have poor reputations in the area of physical and verbal fidelity and I can see how people feel that way about them. He tried to rub up on me and she tried to cheezy grin lie and play all sides and act like she was confiding in me when she was actually trying to pump me for information to take back to her politician to use against someone else. I moved away from them very obviously when these (separate) episodes occurred and went on about better business to discourage their tries at deception. I certainly wouldn't let someone who lied about another woman in order to get his way about something, proceed to rub up on me.
Among countless things I did and didn't like about what he did in his official capacity, he kept trying to convince people that a certain politician he felt himself superior to was "a lineman." He is entitled to his opinion, however, he was on the city payroll using his position and access to people and community events in his role to use it as an opportunity to assert this and play a political maker. A few other people paid by tax payers abused their positions in this manner for various political activity. Taxpayers should not have (had) to pay for this.
And as for her, she joined the merry band, bumping and coo'ing trying to play all sides after being asked what on earth she was doing interviewing people on the great politician's behalf to find out information, trying to wheedle them seeing if they were going to be for him. She admitted she was telling her politician so he could know who to "go after" to kick off.
She, just as the woman who got a contract from the city through nepotism, made hollow remarks about feminism and politics, hollow because she wasn't helping females in North Texas unless it was about her politician so it was odd for her to be going on about it, not that she should have helped any of them but she's the one who brought it up indicating she was supposed to be and planning on it. Same for nepotism woman. My opinion is that it was just a precusor to her trying to play the card very insincerely because she has said she plans to run. (The nepotism woman is just as duplicitous as her relative, so it is and was all a ruse.)
What added to me forming the above general opinion was also when she made the comment,
"thank G_d my kids are boys, I wouldn't want to have girls."
This was said in public, to a group. I really just do not prefer that attitude in someone, and them espousing it outloud and saying he or she is planning to be a representative, as she has said numerous times. That's just not the type of person I would want representing me or my family or the entire community.
I also did not appreciate how she claimed one very hard working volunteer lady near where she lives was just wanting change for change sake (not true at all from what I saw and I know her well). She is entitled to her opinion, but then she started cheesy grinning and acting like she was her best friend when she walked back into the room. She tried to act like she was talking to the group of us about room temperature wine. It was a very uncomfortable situation.
Good thing she hasn't been handpicked by the top honchos and isn't being "groomed" to help overcome the only-partly-true anti-feminine label some people slapped on the gang, or is she?
